Family office deal flow: how to manage it in India

Family offices see deals through relatives, bankers and friends. Without a process, the loudest deal wins. Not the strongest company. The one pushed hardest, by the person you least want to disappoint at the next Diwali lunch.

There are more of you being pitched now. India had over 300 family offices in 2024, against 45 in 2018, according to a PwC India report on family businesses, as reported by Upstox. More offices means more bankers, founders and cousins with a deck, from Mumbai to Ahmedabad to Ludhiana. They've all heard you're writing cheques. If you're still working out how family offices invest in Indian startups, start there. This post is about the step before: what to do with everything that lands in your inbox.

Why does family office deal flow get noisy?

Family office deal flow is noisy because it arrives through relationships, each with its own pressure. A banker wants a fee. A relative wants a yes. A friend wants to look good to the founder. Without a single log and a written mandate, you end up judging the messenger instead of the company.

Professional investors face the same pattern, just with less family politics. In a survey of 885 venture capitalists, mostly in the US, Paul Gompers, Will Gornall, Steven Kaplan and Ilya Strebulaev found over 30% of deals came through professional networks, 20% were referred by other investors and 8% came from portfolio companies, according to the full paper. Almost 30% were self-generated. Only 10% came inbound from founders. That's venture firm data, not family office data. A family office is built around one family's relationships, so don't expect your share from people you know to be smaller. Our note on where early-stage deal flow comes from in India maps the Indian channels.

Where does family office deal flow come from?

Each of the 4 sources pulls your judgement in a different direction. Knowing the pull is half the fix. The other half is recording it, so that a year from now you can see which source sent you companies that were worth the time and which only sent you meetings.

Relatives and friends

The pull here is obligation. You don't want to offend anyone. So deals get a meeting they'd never earn on paper, and sometimes a cheque. The kindest thing you can do for a relative's founder is a fast, clear answer. A slow maybe hurts everyone.

Bankers and wealth managers

Ask one question first: who pays you on this deal? A banker who's paid a success fee by the company isn't neutral. That's fine. It's how the market works. You just need to know it, and you need it in writing, before the founder's first call.

Other investors and syndicates

Co-investment offers feel safe because someone else has already said yes. Ask what diligence they actually ran, and read it. If they won't share notes, you're on your own. Our guide to how angel syndicates work in India covers what a lead investor usually does and doesn't do.

Founders who write in

The smallest stream, and the easiest to ignore. Don't. Read them on a fixed day, say every Friday, so they don't pile up behind the louder deals. A founder who found you on their own has done some homework already.

What does a good deal flow process look like?

The process below needs 1 inbox, 1 Excel sheet and about 1 hour a week. It works whether your office has a full investment team or just a family member and an analyst. What it changes is simple: every deal faces the same questions, whoever sent it, so your no is about fit and never about the sender.

1. One inbox: every deal goes to one email address, including deals pitched at weddings.
2. One log: company, its registration details from the Ministry of Corporate Affairs, sector, stage, ask, date received and who sent it.
3. Source and payment: record how the source is paid, if at all.
4. A one-page mandate: sectors, stages, cheque size, whether you'll invest directly or through a fund registered with the Securities and Exchange Board of India, and how many startup bets you'll make in a year.
5. The same first questions: send every company one list within 2 weeks, then run the six checks for early-stage startups on the ones that answer.
6. An owner and a date: each deal gets one decision owner and a no-by date.
7. A quarterly review: in January, April, July and October, ask which sources sent deals that reached diligence.

Log every deal with its source. In a year, the log tells you which relationships send companies worth your time.

How often should a family office say no?

You'll say no to nearly everything. Plan for it. In the same survey, the median venture firm considered 100 opportunities for every deal it closed. A family office making a few startup bets a year will decline far more than it funds. A process makes those declines quick, consistent and easier to explain at home.

Give the reason in one line. "It sits outside our mandate this year" is honest, and it protects the relationship with whoever sent the deal. Thank them. They'll remember it, and they'll send you the next one.

What should a family office do this week?

Write your one-page mandate this week. Then set up the log before the next deal arrives, and you'll never again have to remember who sent what over a family dinner.

Questions

Where do family offices in India get startup deal flow?

Family offices hear about startups through relatives, friends, bankers, wealth managers, other investors and founders who write in directly. Global venture research shows deals come mostly through networks rather than inbound pitches, and a family office is built around personal networks to begin with.

How should a family office manage startup deal flow?

Send every deal to one inbox and one log, record who sent it and how that source is paid, write a one-page mandate, ask every company the same first questions, give each deal an owner and a decision date, and review the log every quarter.

How can a family office decline a deal from a relative or friend?

Point to the process, not the person. If the family has a written mandate and every company faces the same questions, a no becomes a finding about fit with the mandate. Say it early, give one honest reason and thank the person who sent it.

Sources: Upstox, Family offices spin off wealth, diversify into startup investment: PwC report, 4 Jul 2024 · Gompers, Gornall, Kaplan and Strebulaev, How Do Venture Capitalists Make Decisions?, NBER Working Paper 22587, 2016 (Journal of Financial Economics, 2020) · NBER Digest, How Venture Capitalists Make Decisions, Dec 2016

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